My husband and I had been in the car for a while, after dinner out, so I had been sitting quietly for a few hours. It was January; it was cold and dark and icy when we got home. I got out of the car, got the mail, and headed back toward the house when I felt gushing blood. I called to my husband that I needed to get in the house NOW, and I will never forget the sound of panic in his voice when he asked what was wrong.
I got myself into the bathroom and kept bleeding and got my soaked clothes off. The bleeding slowed way down, but I could feel some pressure internally, so still, I was sure I had miscarried.
Looking back, I’m surprised at how calm I was. I found the phone number and called the hospital to talk to the doc on call, who said to come in. I remember thinking how long the drive was taking, even with no traffic, and how numb and miserable I felt. I had stopped bleeding, and I was sure the pregnancy was over.
We had a long wait in the ER. I remember how quiet it was in there. One of the nurses showed me a picture on her phone of an 18-month-old and said, “You never get the first one with IVF. But you will. See? You will.”
I remember an old woman staring at me from across the room. Just standing outside another patient’s cubicle, staring at me. It felt like I was in a bad arty movie.
We waited. We waited more. Someone pulled a bunch of blood clots out of me. (Hey, I told you this was going to be gross.) And finally we got to see the on-call doc. In a labor and delivery room, of course, with the plastic bassinet. He did an ultrasound, and everything was fine. There was a little wiggly baby-image on the screen, with its heartbeat just what it should have been. Yes, we were both in tears; everything was OK. I immediately calmed down, after hours of being in some kind of limbo where I was sure that it was over, but nothing else happened.
The doctor said I’d be on bedrest and wanted me to stay overnight and have another ultrasound in the morning. I got set up in a room obviously set up for families post-birth, and my husband went home.
And that was it. It started out pretty bloody and awful, but then it seemed like everything would quite possibly work out.